Different songs, different fates

The difference in the sociocultural baggage of partners may affect their relationship. True, even just an understanding that we are all different and have the right to differ from each other, will smooth out a fallen conflict.

The life of several young families passes next to me. All from twenty to thirty -five.

Creating a family is a difficult matter, I would say, an orchestral. Although at first it seems only about two participants. But no, the most active participants are at least four more people – parents from both sides. And also friends, and also on both sides. Then children, their friends and friends. Colleagues, neighbors raging around a life that sometimes reveals a sharp difference in the interests, addictions and preferences. But the main thing, of course, is the premarital experience with which everyone comes to a new family. And then I noticed the problem that was previously unknown to me. Rather, this: in our generation, such a problem practically did not exist.

The totalitarian society was based on the environment of a rather homogeneous. Material wealth, education, names and phenomena proposed by culture, everyone had approximately the same. We read the same books and magazines, listened to the same music, spoke with one ideas. One, by the way, for all pioneer childhood and one Komsomol youth.

Of course, the difference was here. Between visitors of the operetta and the Philharmonic, for example, readers of the New World and our contemporary, a resident of the provincial town and the capital. But either it was not so significant, or all these people peacefully lived in their horizontal layers and with each other crossed little. And one more thing: lovers of classical music, as a rule, did not neglect the operetta, and readers of the New World necessarily looked into “Our Contemporary”.

Political disagreements shared mostly fathers and children. And they were not in acute, but in the passive stage of rare conversations, since they had no effective way, as well as forms of their social manifestation.

Then another time has come. From a certain number of socio-cultural layers, thousands of reference communities were formed, sometimes socially decorated, sometimes

volatile and spontaneous. It is no longer physics and lyrics, for example, between which there was, by the way, there is a big difference (again, one stage, two television channels, exhibitions, which all stood in one burst). Today, interpretants and lovers of theater.DOC, football fans and creators of the Andrei Bely Prize not only have a weak idea of each other, but also do not want to have it at all.

Previously, hobbies could unite people, but at the same time they did not make up any prerequisites for the demarcation. Today everyone is striving to create a closed social environment around themselves with their values, the style of behavior, dress code, slang, etc. Even representatives of different youth subcultures, some emo kids and cyberpanes, treat each other aggressively or, at best, with complete indifference.